If Tildi’s versions are coming back competent but bland, the cause is almost always the draft rather than the tool. These are the four habits that change the result most, in the order they matter.
01
The draft
Write it the way you would never send it
This is the one that changes results most, and it is the opposite of what most people do. A draft you have already made polite has had your voice taken out of it, and Tildi can only preserve what is there.
Type it annoyed, unfinished, or over-explained. That is the useful version.
Leave the sentence you would delete. It usually contains what you actually mean.
Do not write the message you want to send. Write the thing you want them to understand.
Longer and honest beats short and careful.
02
The intention
Name what the message has to do
The intention is the only thing Tildi asks you for, and picking the one that matches your mood rather than the outcome is the most common way to get three versions that are all subtly wrong.
Ask what you want to be true after they read it.
You can be furious and still need “Set a boundary” rather than “Call it out”.
If two intentions look right, the message is doing two jobs: split it.
03
The person
Say who is reading, when it matters
The same apology goes differently to a manager and to your closest friend. Adding the person narrows the register on an axis the intention does not touch.
Add the one person you most often misjudge the tone with, and start there.
How carefully Tildi should tread is the field that moves the result most.
Plenty of messages do not need this. It is not required.
04
The versions
Read all three before deciding
The three are not drafts of increasing quality: they sit on a gentler-to-firmer spectrum, and the right one depends on the moment rather than on craft. The middle one is recommended, not correct.
Read the firmest one even if you are sure you want the gentle one.
If all three feel wrong the same way, that is the intention, not the draft.
If one is nearly right, edit it. Editing costs nothing; running again costs an action.
05
Going again
Change one thing at a time
When a second run is genuinely needed, changing the draft and the intention and the person together tells you nothing about which of them was the problem.
Change the intention, or the draft, or the person: not all three.
Adding one concrete detail to the draft is often the whole fix.