The same words land differently depending on who is reading them. People is where you record the handful of relationships that change how you write, and it is deliberately a register setting, not a notebook about anyone.
01
What it does
A person sets the register, not the content
The intention says what the message has to do. The person says how you say it to this particular someone, because the same apology goes differently to your manager and to your closest friend.
What you record is used to choose a register.
It is never inserted into the message, quoted, or referred to.
Choosing a person is optional on every rewrite. Plenty of messages do not need one.
02
Adding someone
Four short fields, none of them a biography
Everything on the form is there to answer one question: how should Tildi speak to this person? Anything that does not change that has no reason to be here.
Their name, which is only ever a label for you.
What they are to you: manager, partner, friend.
How carefully Tildi should tread, from low to high.
How you usually lean with them: gentler, more direct, and a short note on what works.
03
Getting value from it
Start with the one you keep getting wrong
There is no advantage to filling this in for everybody you write to. Most people start with a single entry: whoever they most often misjudge the tone with, and add more only when a relationship genuinely changes how they write.
One well-judged entry beats ten guessed ones.
Add someone when you notice yourself rewriting messages to them specifically.
Sensitivity is the field that moves the result most. It is worth being honest about.
04
On a rewrite
Choosing them when it matters
The person sits next to the intention in the brief. Pick both and the register is narrowed twice: once by what the message must do, once by who is reading it.
Leave it unset and Tildi writes for a general reader.
It applies to Second Read and Prepare too, where knowing the relationship changes the reading.
Changing the person and running again is a new action, like any other run.
05
Editing and removing
Changing your mind about an entry
An entry can be edited at any time, and removing one does not touch anything you kept. The versions you saved stay in Saved: they simply stop being linked to anybody.
Editing takes effect on the next rewrite, not retroactively.
Removing a person leaves their saved rewrites in place, unlinked.
Deleting your account removes people along with everything else.